Okay, so I've thought about this A LOT. I need to lose about 50# before I feel "right" in my body (it's no different to me than any other kind of body-centered dysphoria because it's not about the weight, it's because I don't feel like me, I feel like a fraud, etc.) and my girlfriend, whom I love, cannot bear ANY discussion of weight-loss or dieting, even to the point of struggling with talk of going gluten-free to prevent documented health problems. So, what the hell to do when one of us (who has a hx of ED and BDD) wants to talk about things around the other (who gets upset at the slightest discussion of weight issues)?

First, putting it behind a cut is the best general step for us--if it's talk about anything to do with controlling portions, comparing today's weight to yesterday's, it has to go behind the cut.

For some people, you can't mention the calorie count of a dish, or your weight. I think that's highly counterproductive, but that's where they're at. Because we're so socially trained to talk about weight and weightloss in certain value terms (I only lost 2# this week, this dish is naughty because it has 300cal/portion, I "will make up for it next week" because I had an ice cream cone), it's hard to control how people discuss their weight and weight loss unless you're in a group that has worked extensively on altering their relationship with food and weight. So. Cut Tags.